We have all heard the stereotypical remarks that people put on stay-at-home moms:
"What do you do all day at home?"
"So your wife really doesn't work?"
"It must be awful being stuck inside everyday!"
"When are you going back to real life?"
The list goes on.
I have been a SAHM now for a little over 4 years and in that time my outlook on this season of my life has changed. If you were to talk to me when my first son was born about how I liked being at home you would have seen tears, fear, and regret. I hated my new at home "job" and was desperately looking for a way out. Thankfully, after much help and communication I can now say I love being a SAHM. I am in a position where I get to (with some boundaries) do whatever I want each day. I wake up and am able to seize each day as a new opportunity to grow myself as a person and to watch my kids grow. Some days are not all that glamorous and most days are filled with fun and mundane tasks but the beauty is there is so much more than meets the eye with a stay-at-home mom.
This week I finished a book I highly recommend, "Liturgy of the Ordinary" by Tish Harrison Warren. She does a phenomenal job of connecting the mundane and ordinary routines of life with the life we have in our church. As I was reading her book it reminded me specifically of motherhood and those of us who stay at home with our children. (whether that be by choice or necessity).
Here are some notable quotes for you to reflect on whether or not you work in or out of the home:
Today I dropped my oldest off at preschool, went to my OB with my youngest, did dishes, laundry, picked up my son from school, made lunch and did dishes once again. All mundane ordinary tasks. I often repeat those remarks I mentioned earlier to myself asking "is this really all I do all day?" What I can often forget is that those ordinary everyday moments with my kids, with my neighbors, and with God are all part of a picture much larger and grander than myself. I am not just a stay-at-home mom. I am living the life God has given me and with that will come days of doubt and days of rejoicing. The best thing to do is to commit each day to God, asking him to use it for my good and his glory.
If you find yourself going through the motions or thinking your life doesn't add up because you don't have a business card or career that pays you money (because let's face it, being a mom is more than a full-time gig), know that you are worth so much more than your own doubts or the doubts of others. From one SAHM mom to another, our work is important and valued.