baby on a plane, a summary.

You wake up early and pack every snack you own into the diaper bag. Pack plastic bags for the messy diaper you know is going to happen on the flight and jump in the car. Your car ride is full of screams because you booked your trip to be a little after naptime because you dont want to be that mom on the plane with the crying child. You get to the airport and the Southwest lady wants to see proof of age for your child who clearly is under 1 years old and you search through all of the snacks for a immunization record or something for proof that your diaper-wearing, babbling, and non-walking child is not a toddler. You go cheap on the flight and choose to have a lap baby and need to put their car seat under with baggage but forget to tell your husband to get a palstic bag to protect the car seat with. $15 later Southwest helps you out and gives you a nice big blue cheap cover to ensure the "safety" of the car seat. 

You're doing good on time and you feel like you got this in the bag. Here comes security checks. You smile at the lady who puts her germ-infested hands all over your babies sippy cup  top and then hollers for you to "move along lady, there is a line here". You listen and hurry up  with your baby in tow in the carrier to get checked for possible bomb powder on your hands. Now it is time to get all of your carry-ons and infected sippy cup all the while trying to help your husband from getting his brand new laptop smashed by on-coming luggages. 

The end is in sight. You see your gate and head on over and do a quick diaper change.You would go to the bathroom yourself but it's almost impossible to pee with a baby strapped to your chest. Good thing you get to go with family boarding because you checked in way too late and are in C class. Your baby is getting wrestless due to it being way past naptime, but you planned this all out perfectly so don't fret. Family boarding is a breeze minus the two families who purposefully cut you off because they clearly coudln't see or hear you in line before them. You let it pass because as a fellow parent you kow you are all just trying to survive at this point. 

Your baby gets a cold perfectly in time to meet family which sucks but on the upside you get a whole row to just you and your family. Thank you runny nose. Thank goodness for the carrier also because baby is just starting to fall asleep. Good thing you planned out the nap this way. Captain is on the loud speaker now and boy is it loud. His 9am coffee must be kicking in. You figure you are in the clear because your baby should sleep for the entire 45 min quick trip up north.

Here comes the stewardess who kindly tells you that you need to unstrap your baby from your carrier for departure. Wait! You mean the baby you just go to sleep for the flight? Yes, that baby. It obviously makes perfect sense and safer to unstrap the baby from your carrier so that in case of turbulence your baby while now have literally no way of being restrained and safe. Too bad they make flights so expensive or you could have had baby in their car seat on the flight. 

Thankfully, your baby doesn't wake up despite the unnecessary carrier needing to be removed. All is well and you are soon to nana's house. Oh wait, you hear sceaming. This is a loud scream but it's not your baby. Nope, it is another mom who's two year old wants something. The screaming does not stop. And now there are more than 5 babies screaming. Good thing your baby is exhausted and passed out. But the anxiety of a screaming baby fills up inside of you. Why didn't you pack lollipops? If only you brought the older boys bag with you then you would have had a lollipop to give the mom who won't give her child the snack they are begging for. Why can't that mom just give her child the snack? Think of all of us who's hears are figuartively and literally popping. Too late now, your baby is awake. Thankfully, the screaming helped the time pass and soon you are landing. Time to wake up your husband who had a nice nap on the flight, good thing he can sleep through anything. 

Thank you for choosing Southwest and welcome to Sacramento!

(jokes aside, we had a great trip up north to see family. My mom kindly kept the older two boys for us so the trip went smoother than normal but gosh travelling takes a whole lot of patience.)

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A 1st time mom verses a 3rd time mom.

Nick and I can usually spot out first time moms and dads pretty easily now, especially when traveling. We were there once before, almost 5 years ago now. It's not the bags in their eyes, the cups of Starbucks or the huge over stuffed bags that give them away. When you're a first time mom you give your spouse that look when the baby cries, the "what do we do?" look. We see them bouncing back and forth to "shh" their little baby because the thought of them screaming on the plane is something they have been dreading. They are scared of what others might think and the unknown can be overwhelming.

Fast forward a few years later and maybe a few more kids and there is a very different scene, It might look something like this: They have the security check system down. Slip on shoes, one bag, and they only bring one of their kids. One bag filled with just the necessities: a few diapers, a plastic bag for the blowout they know will happen, some water, a change of clothes and that's about it. The baby cries and mom and dad just laugh or maybe even ignore the noise because they know their baby is just tired and will go to sleep soon. They walk onto the airplane with ease and look for other families to sit next to because if one screams they all will scream. 

A first time mom is in experiment mode. Learning what it means to be a mom and to care for a child. They do an amazing job trying to meet their childs every need. A third time mom knows how fast time will fly. How in hind sight all of those scary and unexpected moments will be fond memories of her early days as a parent. 

Whether you are a first time or third time mom the love you have for your kids is the same, unconditional. I have learned so much over the years but what I have learned most is to not sweat the small stuff because one day you will wish you had those moments back. 

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Blowout right as we entered the sky and multiple projectile spit ups. It's all part of the fun!  

Blowout right as we entered the sky and multiple projectile spit ups. It's all part of the fun!  

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Snug as a bug in a rug. Also, PSA Southwest now makes you bring birth certificates or st least a picture of it on your phone. Ooops

our hard work is not done in vain.

We just got back from our trip to Sacramento to spend time with Nick's side of the family. Even for a short one hour flight there is a lot of preparation that goes into travelling with 3 kids, I mean 2 (sorry Nick). Despite all of my nerves with getting all of us ready, I was most nervous about my boys on the trip. Kids are unpredictable and even though my boys have done fine in the past, they are at different ages now and I did not know how they would do.

What surprised me the most was how much my boys (well, mostly Calvin) actually hears what we tell him. On an average day I cannot even begin to count how many times I am trying to teach him manners, respect, hospitality, the Bible, how to behave in social environments, and of course to be kind to his little brother. It can get exhausting, but I know he is worth it. It's my job as his parent to lead him in the ways of the Lord. This trip showed me that all those teachable moments and times of trying to exercise patience does not just go into one ear and out the other.

Here are a few scenarios over the week where Calvin really caught me off guard and made me a proud mama. So please let me boast here for a moment because I truly love this little dude.

  • When asked by the TSA woman before we went through security what his name was Calvin responded: "Hi, I'm Calvin Nicholas Davis." She then proceeded to give me back our ticket and he said "Thank you very much."
  • Even though I am embarrassed to admit it, we went through the drive-thru at Krispy Kreme for Calvin to have his first donut-amazingness experience. After his first bite he said "Mom and Dad, this is belicious (he has a hard time with his v's), thank you so much. I love it!"
  • Nick preached at an OPC (Orthodox Presbyterian Church) on Sunday and Calvin noticed a little boy around his age holding a hot wheels car. He chased him down, introduced himself and then switched hot wheels with him. Calvin's original truck was quite larger (and much nicer!) than his new friends and we had left church without exchanging them back. Calvin in the car told Nick and I "It's ok Mommy, my friend likes my hot wheels."
  • When we landed back in San Diego, Calvin was excited to see my mom as she was waiting for us at the airport. Once we got into our truck he told my mom, "Thank you Nonna, thank you for picking us up. I missed you."
  • Max was crying over something small and Calvin without being told went up to Max, rubbed his head, kissed him, and said "It's okay Max, brother is here, you are SO cute."

I do not share these small memorable moments to say I have the best kid ever, but rather to encourage you. It is easy to get discouraged or to think that our kids don't hear us when they act disobedient or do the opposite of what they know to be right. But we can't let the troubling or trying times keep us from helping to raise them into great children. All that we pour into them now will help shape who they will become. 

Calvin (and Max too) showed me that all our efforts are worth it and that they matter. Each person our kids come in contact with can either have a good or bad encounter. I want my kids to chose kindness and respect always and with everyone. And while I know this will not always happen, I only pray that when it is hard I will remember these proud moments and realize they do hear me sometimes. This trip truly showed me that our hard work is not done in vain. They are like sponges just waiting to soak it all up. Parrots. 

Do your kids surprise you by demonstrating attitudes and behaviors you have tried to ingrain into them? Do you ever feel like you are sometimes talking to a brick wall? What do you do to stay encouraged to raise your kids in the fear and admonition of the Lord?

Here is a huge photo drop from our drip visiting our family in Sacramento:

My husband's family lives on a huge farm where there are lots of quads, tractors, and land...my boys were in heaven.

My husband's family lives on a huge farm where there are lots of quads, tractors, and land...my boys were in heaven.

Calvin and I learned how to ride the quad (we went very slow).

Calvin and I learned how to ride the quad (we went very slow).

We bought both boys a ticket on the plane and brought their car seats aboard. It was so amazing having them in one spot for the whole ride and they seemed to enjoy it too. We received lots of looks for carrying our seats aboard but I would totally do it again. Calvin also made a friend on the plane ride up who sat in between Nick and him and I sat next to his mom and her newborn. 

We bought both boys a ticket on the plane and brought their car seats aboard. It was so amazing having them in one spot for the whole ride and they seemed to enjoy it too. We received lots of looks for carrying our seats aboard but I would totally do it again. Calvin also made a friend on the plane ride up who sat in between Nick and him and I sat next to his mom and her newborn. 

The boys on their way to go see Uncle B

The boys on their way to go see Uncle B

Nana and Papa with all their grand babies. Calvin refers to all of them as "The Cousins"!

Nana and Papa with all their grand babies. Calvin refers to all of them as "The Cousins"!

Max definitely loves to make a scene and smiled at every person passing by as he made a long and slow walk to the baggage claim. 

Max definitely loves to make a scene and smiled at every person passing by as he made a long and slow walk to the baggage claim. 

If you would like to hear about how we traveled with car seats on the plane and how we attempted to make our trip easy with two kids let me know and I might do a post on it.