my life isn't over because I'm a stay-at-home mom.

We have all heard the stereotypical remarks that people put on stay-at-home moms:

"What do you do all day at home?"

"So your wife really doesn't work?"

"It must be awful being stuck inside everyday!"

"When are you going back to real life?"

The list goes on.

I have been a SAHM now for a little over 4 years and in that time my outlook on this season of my life has changed. If you were to talk to me when my first son was born about how I liked being at home you would have seen tears, fear, and regret. I hated my new at home "job" and was desperately looking for a way out. Thankfully, after much help and communication I can now say I love being a SAHM. I am in a position where I get to (with some boundaries) do whatever I want each day. I wake up and am able to seize each day as a new opportunity to grow myself as a person and to watch my kids grow. Some days are not all that glamorous and most days are filled with fun and mundane tasks but the beauty is there is so much more than meets the eye with a stay-at-home mom.

This week I finished a book I highly recommend, "Liturgy of the Ordinary" by Tish Harrison Warren. She does a phenomenal job of connecting the mundane and ordinary routines of life with the life we have in our church. As I was reading her book it reminded me specifically of motherhood and those of us who stay at home with our children. (whether that be by choice or necessity). 

Here are some notable quotes for you to reflect on whether or not you work in or out of the home:

These tiny moments of beauty in our days train us in the habits of adoration and discernment. And the pleasure and sensuousness of our gathered worship teach us to look for and receive these small moments in our days. Together, they train us int he art of noticing and reveling in God’s goodness and artistry.
— p 139
We are shaped every day, whether we know it or not, by practices-rituals and liturgies that make us who we are.
— p 29
I’m living this life, the life right in front of me. This one where marriages struggle. This one where we aren’t living as we thoguht we might or as we hoped we would. This one where we are weary, where we want to make a difference but aren’t sure where to start, where we have to get dinner on the table or the kid’s teeth brushes, where we have back pain and boring weeks, where our lives look small, where we doubt...
— p 23
But in facing the reality of death we learn how to live rightly. We learn how to live in the light of our limits and the brevity of our lives. And we learn to live in the hope of the resurrection.
— pg 147
I can get caught up in big ideas of justice and truth and neglect the small opportunities around me to extend kindness, forgiveness, and grace.
— p 77

Today I dropped my oldest off at preschool, went to my OB with my youngest, did dishes, laundry, picked up my son from school, made lunch and did dishes once again. All mundane ordinary tasks. I often repeat those remarks I mentioned earlier to myself asking "is this really all I do all day?" What I can often forget is that those ordinary everyday moments with my kids, with my neighbors, and with God are all part of a picture much larger and grander than myself. I am not just a stay-at-home mom. I am living the life God has given me and with that will come days of doubt and days of rejoicing. The best thing to do is to commit each day to God, asking him to use it for my good and his glory. 

If you find yourself going through the motions or thinking your life doesn't add up because you don't have a business card or career that pays you money (because let's face it, being a mom is more than a full-time gig), know that you are worth so much more than your own doubts or the doubts of others. From one SAHM mom to another, our work is important and valued.