How do you like being a mom? What is it like? Do you sleep? These are questions I am often asked by friends, family, and acquaintances who don't have kids. I never quite know how to properly answer this question. I can give them the short version, the truth, a lie, or be honest with some brevity. In response to this question, I usually approach it like I do when talking to moms who ask me what labor and delivery is like. Every mom has her own journey for it and I have yet to hear one that sounded exactly like another.
For the sake of being truthful with all of you, I'll be honest about both the good and the bad. I love being a mom because everything in my life is more meaningful. When my boys wake me up on a Saturday morning at 6:30AM and all I want to do is lay in bed with Nick, their bright faces make it all better. I can honestly say every morning seeing their faces, no matter the hour, they do bring me immense joy and a smile too. Being a mom means that I have my own personal fan club. I could be wearing the most absurd outfit, dancing with the craziest dance moves, while making the silliest face and my kids think I am still the coolest person around.
Being a mom has made every holiday, change of season, and adventure more fun and special. They help me to stop and enjoy the little things and to find beauty in the ordinary aspects of life. They have taught me what it is like to be a servant and to find joy in doing the not so fun stuff (a.k.a. cleaning pee from the floor because they "missed" the toilet, or wiping crushed snail from my son's hand, or folding my never ending piles of laundry). Being a mom has made me a nurse, a chef, a chauffeur, a personal shopper, a comedian, and has made me a more joy-filled person.
Are there aspects about being a mom that are beyond difficult? Yes, yes, and yes!!! Being a mom changes your mind, body, marriage, and lifestyle in every possible way. I no longer have weekends because when you have kids every single day is a weekday. My emotions are all over the place and I can cry at the drop of a dime. All of my old jeans from college can now be found at the local Goodwill. I now share my husband with two other little boys. I cannot leave my house without first taking care of the present and future needs of my kids. I live in yoga clothes. Coffee is enjoyed in under 2 minutes flat or after being reheated multiple times and my house decor can be described in two words: colorful plastic.
To anyone who might be trying to have kids now or hopes to have children one day in the future, my only advice is this: Being a mom is the hardest calling I have ever had, but is definitely the most rewarding. You cannot prepare yourself for the emotional and physical journey of being a mom, but you will never be alone. Surround yourself with other moms who you look up to and ask for help when you need it.
If you become a mom via adoption or biological you too will see how being a mom is one of the highest callings God will ever call you to. Motherhood is a perfect demonstration of sacrificial love.
How do you like being a mom? Do you like it? Is it what you expected?